Jesus understands the pain of rejection. “He came to his own, and his own people did not receive him” (John 1:11). Jesus was betrayed by one of His closest associates (John 6:71; cf. Psalm 41:9). As we deal with the pain of a broken relationship, we must take our burdens to the Lord (1 Peter 5:7). He weeps with those who weep (John 11:35; Romans 12:15), and He is able to “empathize with our weaknesses” (Hebrews 4:15).
A broken relationship can be the source of many negative emotions. Christians understand the futility of allowing their emotions to guide them. Jesus Christ has blessed us with every spiritual blessing and has made us accepted in Him (Ephesians 1:3, 6). This acceptance transcends all feelings of rejection we may have because it is not based on “hope so” but on “know so.” We know that God has accepted us because God’s Word tells us so, and as we appropriate this truth by faith, it changes our hearts and lives.
Everyone experiences the hurt of a broken relationship at one time or another. We are bound to be hurt and disappointed, for we live in a fallen world. What we choose to do with that hurt and disappointment can make us stronger in our walk with the Lord. God promises to walk through the disappointments in life with us (Hebrews 13:5), and He wants us to know His provision for us is sure. His grace and comfort are ours as we rest in Him.
Every born-again child of God has blessings in Christ, but we have to choose to utilize them. Living in constant gloom and dejection over a broken relationship is like having a million dollars in the bank and living like a pauper because we never make a withdrawal. It is also true that we cannot use what we do not know. Therefore, every believer should seek to “grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord” (2 Peter 3:18) and to be “transformed by the renewing of [his] mind” (Romans 12:2). We must face life armed with a real understanding of what it means to walk by faith.
As believers we are not defined by past failures, disappointment, or the rejection of others. We are defined by our relationship with God. We are His children, born again to newness of life, endowed with every spiritual blessing, and accepted in Christ Jesus. We have the faith that overcomes the world (1 John 5:4).
God has prepared for each of us unique opportunities to walk through the “all things” of this life. We can either walk in our own strength and what the apostle Paul calls our “flesh,” or we can walk in the power of the Holy Spirit. It is our choice. God has provided us with armor, but it is up to us to wear it (Ephesians 6:11–18).
We may suffer disappointment in this life, but we are children of the King, and the rejection we experience is a momentary pain compared to eternal glory. We can allow it to keep us down, or we can claim the heritage of a child of God and move forward in His grace. Like Paul, we can be “forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead” (Philippians 3:13).
Forgiveness of others is important to the healing process. Holding on to bitterness or nursing a grudge only poisons our own spirit. Yes, we may have been truly wronged, and, yes, the pain is real, but there is freedom in forgiveness. Forgiveness is a gift we can give because it was given to us by the Lord Jesus Christ (Ephesians 4:32).
What a comfort to know the God who said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5). God is always near to comfort the believer. “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles” (2 Corinthians 1:3–4). God, who cannot lie, has promised to go through our trials with us: “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze” (Isaiah 43:2).
“Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken” (Psalm 55:22). In reality, feelings come from thoughts, so, to change how we feel, we should change how we think. And this is what God wants us to do. In Philippians 2:5, Christians are told, “Have the same mindset as Christ Jesus.” In Philippians 4:8, Christians are told to think on things that are true, noble, just, pure, lovely, of good report, and praiseworthy. Colossians 3:2 says to “set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” As we do this, our feelings of rejection diminish.
Overcoming the hurt of a broken relationship requires taking one day at a time, praying for God’s guidance, and reading and meditating on God’s Word. The healing can never come from our own efforts; it comes only from the Lord. It helps to take our eyes off ourselves and focus on God instead. He can make us whole. He can take our brokenness and make us into what He wants us to be. A broken relationship is painful, but the Lord is gracious. He can give our lives meaning, purpose, and joy. Jesus said, “Whoever comes to me I will never drive away” (John 6:37). Our Lord’s relationship with His children is one that will never be broken.
At some point and time in our lives, we’ve felt the hurtful sting of betrayal. That pain is something that we have the choice of carrying with us for the rest of our lives or learning to let go of it and move on. The Bible deals with the topic of betrayal quite a bit, telling us how it hurts, how to forgive, and even how to let ourselves heal. Here are some Bible verses on betrayal:
Leaving Consequences to God The Bible reminds us that God doesn’t turn a blind eye to betrayal. There are spiritual consequences that those committing betrayal will face.
A false witness will not go unpunished, nor will a liar escape. (NLT)
I will bless those who bless you and curse those who treat you with contempt. All the families on earth will be blessed through you. (NLT)
All of us have sinned and fallen short of God’s glory. (CEV)
2 Timothy 2:15
Do your best to win God’s approval as a worker who doesn’t need to be ashamed and who teaches only the true message. (CEV)
They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed, and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, and malice. They are gossips. (NIV)
Your relatives, members of your own family -- even they have betrayed you; they have raised a loud cry against you. Do not trust them, though they speak well of you. (NIV)
Yet it was the Lord’s will to crush him and cause him to suffer, and though the Lord makes[a] his life an offering for sin, he will see his offspring and prolong his days, and the will of the Lord will prosper in his hand. (NIV)
Forgiveness is Essential When we’re looking at getting over a fresh betrayal, the idea of forgiveness can be foreign to us. However, forgiving those who hurt you can be a cleansing process. These Bible verses on betrayal remind us that forgiveness is an important part of our spiritual growth and moving forward stronger than before.
For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions. (NASB)
Whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father who is in heaven will also forgive you your transgressions. (NASB)
So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets. (ESV)
For it is not an enemy who taunts me -- then I could bear it; it is not an adversary who deals insolently with me -- then I could hide from him. But it is you, a man, my equal, my companion, my familiar friend. We used to take sweet counsel together; within God's house, we walked in the throng. (ESV)
In return for my love, they are my accusers, but I give myself to prayer. (NKJV)
Look to Jesus as the Example of Strength Jesus is a great example of how to handle betrayal. He faced betrayals by Judas and his people. He suffered greatly and died for our sins. We may not seek out being a martyr, but when faced with difficulties, we can remind ourselves that Jesus forgave those who hurt him, so we can strive to forgive those who have harmed us. He reminds us of God’s strength and how God can get us through anything.
Jesus asked Judas, “Are you betraying the Son of Man with a kiss?” (CEV)
After Jesus had said these things, he was deeply troubled and told his disciples, “I tell you for certain that one of you will betray me.” (CEV)
For I can do everything through Christ,[a] who gives me strength. (NLT)
Then he came to the disciples and said, “Go ahead and sleep. Have your rest. But look -- the time has come. The Son of Man is betrayed into the hands of sinners. Up, let’s be going. Look, my betrayer is here!” (NLT)
Jesus said, “My friend, go ahead and do what you have come for.” Then the others grabbed Jesus and arrested him. (NLT)
They were glad to hear this, and they promised to pay him. So Judas started looking for a good chance to betray Jesus. (CEV)
Do you think that I came to bring peace to earth? No indeed! I came to make people choose sides. A family of five will be divided, with two of them against the other three. Fathers and sons will turn against one another, and mothers and daughters will do the same. Mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law will also turn against each other. (CEV)
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. (NIV)
Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. (NIV)